Self care, as often portrayed on various social media platforms, is all about treating yourself, having a spa day filled with face masks, ice cream, netflix and more. Dedicating a few hours, even a whole day to yourself, and yourself only.
It’s a great way of showing yourself some kindness and compassion. And who doesn’t like to feel amazing every once in a while?
As much as I love treating myself and having a day full of pampering, the reality of being depressed is, that sometimes these days are simply not possible. Sometimes it’s hard enough to just get out of bed and get through the day, let alone have a self care day.
This is where the term “Boring Self care” comes into play. You see, self care doesn’t exclusively mean going all out on pampering yourself. Sometimes selfcare can mean doing tasks that would be considered mundane or boring.
Tasks such as:
- Putting on a wash
- Washing dishes
- Vacuuming the floor
- Folding and putting away clothes
- Wiping counters and work tops
- Tidying the bedroom
- Changing the sheets
- Changing the bins
- Cleaning the bathroom
Yes, this may sound just like your boring old list of household chores. But for me these tasks mean a lot more. On some days I don’t have the energy to do any of these, things pile up, are left unclean and I can notice how much of a bad effect these things can have on my mental health.
So, instead of having a full blown self care day, I usually decide on doing one task that needs to be doing. I get up and I push myself to do one single task. It usually makes me feel a lot better already and if I then feel like it I may do another task, or even two. Often I even get motivated enough to do all of the jobs that need to be done still. And what I end up with is a clean house and a much better mind set than I had before!
So, the next time you feel like you just don’t have the energy to do some proper self care, maybe start tackling just one little task around your house and see how you feel. For me, my surroundings always have a massive effect on my mental health, as much as they sometimes are a pretty good represantation of my current mental state. Getting things tidied and in order has always helped me feel at least a bit better. It helps me focus and leaves me with a sense of accomplishment.
When you are depressed or otherwise mentally or chronically ill, often you already feel like you are behind everyone else, that you’ve accomplished nothing. Managing to get one thing done, or maybe more, can help you get out of this mind set for at least a little while.
And remember, it’s okay if you’re not where everyone else it at. We all are on different journeys and if all you did today was managing to stay alive, that’s still amazing and you’re pretty badass! Don’t ever let some capitaliat ideals tell you that you have no worth if you can’t work or go to school or be productive. Your worth is much much more than that.
What boring self care have you done lately? Let me know in the comments below!